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Listening to Final Truth

February 1, 2013 Leave a comment

Q&A with Sirshree

Seeker: What is the meaning of listening without judgement?

Sirshree: Whenever we listen to anything – we listen with preconceived notions. If what we are listening to, tallies with what we already know or believe – only then we listen ahead. And if it doesn’t tally, then we stop listening. Judgement means this decision making of what is good and what is better, what is bad and what is worse, and so on.

Seeker: Is it possible to attain the Truth by mere listening?

Sirshree: Yes. This was what has always happened. In India, Gurus have always first told the Truth as it is. The Upanishads are the proof of it.

It is possible to attain the Truth by mere listening

It is possible to attain the Truth by mere listening

Seeker: Why do you call the spiritual sessions (satsang) understanding sessions (samajhsang)?

Sirshree: Because these spiritual sessions are for attaining the Final Truth (Antim Satsang). In these the Seeker has to make good use of his intelligence and common sense.

Seeker: What is Antim Satsang (attaining the Final Truth)?

Sirshree: Antim Satsang means company with Truth. It is the place where one can experience ‘who are you’. Antim Satsang means the discourses where the final truth is imparted.

Until now, we are aware only of the superficial aspects of the Truth. In the final truth discourses, you will have a deeper insight about The Truth… it is an essence which is bright … it is your existence. For example, the essence of sugar is in its sweetness, the essence of water in its wetness. Similarly, our essence is ‘Self.’ Thus Antim Satsang signifies discourses in the presence of a Guru where you realize and stabilize in Truth.

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Fathers’ day is not just for fathers (Sirshree on parenting)

June 25, 2012 Leave a comment

Q. What is the significance of Fathers’ day? Is it a day only for all fathers?

Sirshree: There are two main significances – one for you and one for your child. One  whether you are a parent or not, and the other for parents. One from a spiritual perspective and other from a parental perspective.  Understand the first one. For your spiritual growth, it is important that you give yourself the tough love of a father, the unconditional love of a mother and the wisdom-love of a guru. For you to grow spiritually, giving yourself the tough love of a father means making your body disciplined. Giving yourself the unconditional love of a mother means making your mind surrendered in devotion. Giving yourself the wisdom of a master gives discrimination to your intellect. Thus celebrate fathers’ day, whether you are a father or not, as a day that signifies training and discipline. Use this day to contemplate whether you are giving your body the tough love of a discipline it requires.

Fathers' day is not just for fathers

Fathers’ day is not just for fathers

The second significance is for all parents – not just fathers. A father gives a child the hardware (hard training), a mother gives the child software (soft love) and the guru gives a child heartware (shifting from head to heart).  On fathers’ day, every father and mother could contemplate on whether they are making their child disciplined. And mothers’ day can be used as an opportunity to contemplate on the love you are giving to your children. All these days are just opportunities. You may not be able to contemplate on everything together, so these days are opportunities to focus on specific qualities. Both father and mother have ‘ther’ in common.  Both tough love and soft love is required to tether children with wisdom to take them further.

The word father is also a good reminder of what every parent should give to their children. Examine these qualities on this fathers’ day

F : Forgiving and giving (soft love)

A: Accountability and discipline (tough love)

T: Time (quality time)

H: Health (needs of the body)

E: Education (education of self development)

R: Realization (insight of spiritual growth)

Q.Who is an ideal father? How to be an ideal father?

Sirshree: An ideal father is one who becomes the right ideal for his children.  The mother is the first teacher. The father is the first ideal. When kids are asked who their super hero is, it seems most children answer it is their dad.  We have seen that fatherhood signifies the tough love of discipline and training.  So, be an ideal of discipline yourself. Let your child see that you accomplish boring things first and then take up interesting things. Your child too will then become similarly disciplined.  The more you progress towards Self Stabilization (permanently stabilizing on the experience of Self), the more you become the best ideal for your children.

Q. How should I make my child spiritual. How to spiritually instruct children?

Sirshree:  Don’t teach spirituality to your children – show spirituality to them. The best thing you can give to your children is the gift of happiness and peace. Let your children see how you take decisions with inner peace and how you act with inner poise.  This will be transferred to them.  Giving children spiritual instruction at an young age may confuse them.

If you want to instruct children, do instruct them on self development.  Teach them concentration, will power, focus, communication, etc. Talk to them about strength, stamina and taking initiative.  Verbalize skills for your children, but let them internalize spiritual wisdom by observing you.

 Source : Excerpt of Questions & Answers with Sirshree on 17 June 2012

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What am I?

December 6, 2011 4 comments

Number five has a special significance in spirituality the five elements (Panchmahabhoota), the five bodies (Panchsharir), the five rules of the Buddha (Panchsheel), the five precepts of Aurveda (Panchkarma),  etc.

However there is one set of fives that denotes a unique spiritual phenomenon that very few are aware of the five qualities of the Self. Lot of significance has been attached to the questions Who am I and Why am I? But the question What am I? is oft ignored. What is my inner core made up of? What are the qualities of the Self? What is at the essence of my being? What are the five core values of a human being? And the answer will be five qualities or values. These are creation, realization, satisfaction, devotion and discrimination. To make it simpler, you can substitute these five qualities with the verbs Expressing, Being, Enjoying, Loving and Knowing.

 The five qualities of the Self

The five qualities of the Self

Why only these? You can use an micro or macro approach and will arrive at the same set of five whatever approach you take. Macrocosmically, examine what is being human all about. What differentiates us from animals? Man is considered to be the highest manifestation. What makes him highly evolved are five things that only humans are capable of, not any other animal. Only man is endowed with higher abilities to create and express as manifested in art, to meditate and inquire as manifested in self realization, to love and devote as opposed to merely lust, to be happy and blissful as manifested in laughter, to discriminate and know the difference between what is real and unreal as manifested in developed cognition and conscience.  Microcosmically, when you meditate on Who am I and are established on the inner Self, you are left with only these five values. You experience creativity, peace, happiness, love and truth emanating from your inner core and reverberating in the universe. You do not even require enlightenment to experience it. Ask yourself whether at your core, arent the values of creativity, peace, happiness, love and truth that exist? Take any list of values in a value education class and you can distill them to these fiveno more or no less.

Thus both from a macro and micro point of view, you are left with these five essences. Let us examine each of them to understand the qualities of Self or the nature of Godhead:

Creation (Abhivyakti) : Creation is the physical manifestation of ideas and thoughts. At the core of the universe is creation. The Self in Rest created the universe, the Self in Action to know itself. Shiva created Shakti. Creation also denotes self expression.

Realization (Mouna): Why did creation take place? So that the Self can realize itself.  So that the silence can be realized. At the core of everything created is silence, peace. The purpose of human birth is to realize oneself. The body-mind has been given for the Self to realize itself. The body-mind can never realize the Self. Self realizes itself through the body-mind

Enjoyment (Anand) : The Self realizes itself to be established in bliss. A mere body-mind is enough for the Self to realize itself. But what is unique about humans is that the individual someone who thinks of himself as separate also gets created. And when the individual surrenders to the Self, bliss manifests. God created individuality to experience the happiness of coming back (realizing) to Himself. This happiness is possible only when there is forgetfulness, when there is separation. Thus the significance of the individual. Realization leads to bliss.

Love (Prem): To realize oneself and be established in the Self, the body-mind has to surrender to the Self. You can call this as devotion (bhakti). Devotion arises out of duality. I am separate from God. The individual is separate from the Self. So now the individual surrenders to the Self through bhakti a higher form of love. Where the body-mind appreciates and is in amazement of the Self.  Bhakti leads to realization. On realization, a higher form of love manifests. Love of the Self for its creation. Pure love. Love of the Truth for the Truth.

Discrimination (Satya): On realization, you are stabilized on the truth. There is a clear distinction between what is real and what is unreal.  Only knowing remains. Knowing of the truth. To attain realization too, discrimination of what is the truth and what is not the truth is critical. Only human beings can discriminate between real and unreal. There are only two paths to realization one is that of Surrendering (bhakti). The other is that of discrimination (vivek) where there is a constant enquiry of what is real, what is unreal.

These five qualities shall emanate effortlessly from the one who is realized. Others can practice some simple steps that can enhance these five qualities in their life. Take up a vocation or a hobby where you are fully self expressed where you do not have a sense of time as you create. Mediate to have glimpses of realization. Carry happy thoughts and take time to smell the flowers as you enjoy the process of whatever you do. Be open to the love that exists in relationships. And practice self enquiry to discriminate between what is real and what is unreal.

Open your eyes and watch how all nature, how all that you do is a manifestation of these qualities. How these are the core values. Marvel at the question, What am I?

Enquiry about Ego

July 21, 2011 3 comments

Q&A with Sirshree

In relationships, there should be 'bright love' and not mere expectations

In relationships, there should be 'bright love' and not mere expectations (Photo via flickr)

Seeker:  Is fear, greed or ego the reason behind all the work that we do? Is that why you are asking us to do self-enquiry?

Sirshree:  When you think honestly, you will find that you work with some expectations and with some ego. You have expectations from your brothers, sisters, spouse, children, etc. You want these expectations to be fulfilled. If they do not fulfil these expectations, then they become the reason for your unhappiness and anger. In relationships, there should be ‘bright love’ and not mere expectations. Also in exchange of this love, one should not expect name, fame, and gratitude. This bright love will come to you automatically through understanding. The ego will dissolve.

Seeker:  How does this ego get created?

Sirshree:   Once a child is 2 or 3 years old, the contrast mind begins to form. Which then takes the credit for every action. Then ego begins to increase. Different experiences… successes, wealth, status, etc. fuel the ego even further. Because of the habit of taking credit through appreciation, we gradually become a slave to praise. There is no limit to the ego. One can never satisfy it. This is its nature. If we wish to feed the ego with praise and when we don’t get praise then we have to bear its miseries as well. Self-enquiry with honesty will dissolve this ego and you will then find out your true nature, your being. Most of your problems will end immediately. Enquiry is such a technique that if it is done with understanding, then it can result in self realization.

Seeker:  Now, I am beginning to understand many things. What else have I to learn?

Sirshree:   You have to learn a little and do a lot of unlearning. Whatever concepts and beliefs you have assumed and accepted have to be removed and cleared through understanding. Whomsoever has the desire for happiness, peace, bliss etc. should do this enquiry.

Thoughts and Self Enquiry

January 25, 2011 10 comments

Q&A with Sirshree

Who am I?

Who am I?

Seeker: How to make the mind thoughtless?

Sirshree: Mind means thoughts. Being thoughtless means being in a “no mind” state. To quieten the mind, self-enquiry is the most beautiful method. This method is the road (means) as well as the destination (end). When you ask, “Who am I?”, this thought in the form of a question will cut off other thoughts. While this enquiry is on, other thoughts cannot remain. After ending all other thoughts – this last thought of ‘Who am I?’ will also end itself. Then self-realization takes place. This will break the concept of form – the concept of body. You are not limited by the body. You are boundless and boundary less. You will come to know by experience. That is why self enquiry is the most beautiful method to make the mind thoughtless.

Seeker: Why do you say that self enquiry is the best method? Why is it better than all other meditations?

Sirshree: Those who meditate generally do so by uttering a word, visualizing an image, repeating a mantra, etc. But, these repetitions are not effective to enhance your awareness about yourself as the question “Who am I?”. Many who meditate don’t know whether they are meditating or sleeping or are merely in a hazy state of mind. You cannot be in a hazy state when you ask the question “Who am I?”. You become aware of the response to this question. This question pierces within you like a sharp instrument and drives you within to ‘your centre’. In the beginning you may not be able to recognize the deep silence within you in spite of reaching your centre (source). However by persisting to ask this question, you will gradually start recognizing the deep silence, a stillness – which is your true self. Later the question itself becomes the answer.

However advanced a meditator is, thoughts continue to crowd the mind. We need a very potent thought to annihilate these thoughts; a thought that will annihilate all the thoughts. You require a steel instrument to cut steel. An antidote for a poison is another poison. In the same way, let one thought annihilate all other thoughts.

The Whole-Sole Purpose of Your Life

January 17, 2011 8 comments

Being established permanently in the Self is called Self Stabilization

Being established permanently in the Self is called Self Stabilization

We have within us a centre, a core, from where all our thoughts and feelings emanate. The most interesting part is that this center is always fixed, it never moves. It is akin to the axis of a fan which is always stationery and is essential for the fan to function. Similarly there is something within us which is stationery and fixed. To get established there is the whole sole purpose of your life. Once you have access to that centre, then you will learn that there alone lies eternal bliss. That center can also be called the Self. Being established there permanently can be called as Self Stabilization, which is distinct from self realization – a one time glimpse.

There are three steps to attain the whole-sole purpose of human life.

Step 1 : Be Positive Minded.

Always bear a positive outlook. Several pessimistic and negative thoughts might come across your path in this journey towards your goal. Transform every negative thought to a positive one by using the word ‘but’. If a thought comes to you, “I am sad”, then immediately transform this thought into a positive one. Say, “I am sad, but if I desire, I can experience the feeling of bliss here and now itself”. If you think that “I cannot do this work”, then reframe the thought in this manner: “I cannot do this, but with the help of God it can be possible”.

Step Two : Be Present Minded

In this step you are required to keep yourself alert about every sound, every incident, every thought around you, every moment. By doing so, you will become sensitive about yourself and your surroundings. You will also get rid of forgetfulness. You shall no more remain absentminded. Your awareness about the present also will make you aware about negative emotions or vices in you such as hatred, disgust, anger, pride, comparison and greed. Thus your mind starts to become pure. Practice living in the present using all the methods and meditations that you come across. (Many such exercises are featured in our newsletters regularly)

Step Three : Be Single Minded

In the third step, you are undisturbed and only focused towards the whole-sole purpose of your life. Remind yourself of your whole sole purpose throughout the day. It is the law of life that whatever you are receptive toward, whatever you focus your attention on, that manifests in your life. Be single minded about the whole sole purpose of being established in the centre within where you experience eternal bliss.

These three steps take your mind within. Mind is the cloud that is shrouding the sun (Self) from shining. When your mind surrenders to the centre then only will happiness, tranquility and love manifest. What was always ever present can be experienced. Practice Self Enquiry to reach the Self, to reach that centre. Practising Self Enquiry is one of the best ways to take your mind within where it gets eliminated so that the Self shines.

Self Enquiry is a path that is gaining popularity nowadays. It is an ancient method, that has been time and again revived by realized souls. After Ramana Maharishi revived this process, many have taken up this path. Still it is one of the most misunderstood of concepts. Sirshree Tejparkhiji demystifies Self Enquiry and leads the seeker step by step in his book “Self Enquiry with Understanding”.

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About Sirshree

November 26, 2009 Leave a comment

Sirshree’s spiritual quest, which began during his childhood, led him on a journey through various schools of thought and meditation practices. The overpowering desire to attain the truth made him relinquish his teaching job. After a long period of contemplation, his spiritual quest ended with the attainment of the ultimate truth. Sirshree says, “All paths that lead to the truth begin differently, but end in the same way—with understanding. Understanding is the whole thing. Listening to this understanding is enough to attain the truth.”



To disseminate this understanding, Sirshree devised Tejgyan—a unique system for wisdom—that helps one to progress from self-help to self-realization.


He has delivered more than a thousand discourses and written over fifty books. His books have been translated in more than ten languages and published by leading publishers such as Penguin Books, Hay House Publishers, Jaico Books, etc. Sirshree’s retreats have transformed the lives of millions and his teachings have inspired various social initiatives for raising global consciousness.

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